I Think He’s Talking About a Stripper, but Maybe its His Next Baby Momma

5 Jan

Just when I thought that maybe I might run out of things to write about this morning I simply had to click on yahoo to find the newest level of stupidity.  Now, I don’t think of myself as any more racist than anyone else (lets face it, if we are honest with ourselves we are all a little racist to some degree or another and not just toward the usual suspects either) but even I have to think that maybe, just maybe this bunch is asking for it.

all my baby mommasOxygen Network has picked up for its spring line up an epic failure of a TV show but not for the reasons that some are arguing.  “All My Babies’ Mamas” follows Carlos “Shawty Lo” Walker (of “Shake That Laffy Taffy” fame), a 36-year-old Atlanta-based rapper who happens to be the father of 11 children (yes, you read that right) by 10 different women. Think Real World meets Honey Boo Boo meets the Real Housewives and you might have a pretty good idea of where this show is going.

When you watch the pilot preview on YouTube you are introduced to the Baby Mama’s, all of who have been given nicknames (my favorite is the Fighter Baby Mama, least favorite is the Baby Mama from Hell) it would appear that they all at some point or another and at various times live in the 10,000+ sq.ft. Atlanta mansion with all the young’uns….. oh, yeah, and Shawty Lo’s 19 year old girlfriend (did I mention that 4 of his children are the same age as his current girlfriend?)  The show follows the daily lives and how they all interact and get along (or I am willing to bet not get along) with one another.

Now, as I would have suspected there is a petition to have this show pulled from the spring line up.  Started by Sabrina Lamb, a best-selling author, she contends that the show would exploit the pain of these children and it promotes a toxic situation to its young, impressionable female audience.  As of Friday she has received over 13,000 signatures but it would seem that the network is throwing caution to the wind on this one and to date there is no plan to pull the show.

Several prominent African-Americans have spoken out against the show comparing it to slavery and that it advocates a culture of ignorance.  Lamb is quoted as saying, “You’ve got a network with international reach telling a young female audience it’s okay to have unprotected sex, that other women are enemies, that they’re not valued by men, that their financial sustenance should come from a man, and that babies are just spectators in all of this.”  Yet I contend that this show is not the cause of this mentality.  Don’t get me wrong, I think the show is outrageous and should be pulled but not because it promotes a mentality of promiscuity but because it’s just stupid.  People like Lamb shouldn’t be outraged that this is a TV show but instead outraged that this is real life.  Sure, keeping this show off the air is a small victory and a step in the right direction but there is far too little public outcry and almost no calls to action to correct the behavior that has led to shows like this.  Shows like this don’t stereotype people, they are made because the stereotype already exists, these stereotypes are what makes these TV shows.

Most of my generation lives on this kind of television, the mindless dribble of a “reality” show that is more scripted than most sit-coms and while yes, I have been known to get caught up in the hilarity of The Robertson’s of Duck Dynasty fame I am probably one of the very few 30-something women who have never seen an episode of the Kardashian’s or Meet Honey Boo Boo.  The few times that I watched a Real Housewives of wherever I have walked away dumber than when I started.  My problem here is that this baby mama drama mentality has been around for such a long time that it is almost a status symbol to some of the Shawty Lo gang and deluding yourself into thinking that by pulling this show you are some how going to improve the maturity of an entire culture you are probably dumber than I was after watching an episode of Bad Girls Club.

If you really want to effect some change you need to get to the root of the problem.  I have said this all along, not just about the black community but about the world in general.  To find the root of the problem you need to start asking such questions as when certain behaviors became acceptable, the problems is that you are hard pressed to find someone these days who doesn’t realize that these behaviors shouldn’t be acceptable simply because that is how they were raised and it is all they know.  I don’t think shows like this glamorize this kind of life style since it has already been glamorized, how else do you explain the 10 women who have Shawty Lo’s children?  I have to believe this other wise I might lose all faith in common sense and basic human decency.

It boils down to this, we, as an entire nation, have failed to raise our children.  We stopped teaching them morals and manners and have instead left them to occupy themselves with television and video games.  Young girls don’t value themselves anymore and boys have lost that strong male role model in their lives, the two things that I think form the foundation of society.  When this foundation was lost everything else began to crumble around it.

People, teach your children, show them right from wrong, encourage them and help them become strong, responsible, productive members of society.  This is the first step in the long recovery of our sense of pride that we lost a long time ago.


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